Dear Annie: I’m scared of dying and being found buried under the stuff I keep buying
Dear Annie: I am a retired single owner. The problem is, I have a spending addiction where I get the hell out of it. I literally can’t stop.
My house is full of stuff I bought, and even if it’s not stuffed from floor to ceiling, it puts me in physical danger. I’m willing to admit that I have a problem with hoarding and need to clean the house, but most services to help hoarders are too expensive. I am disabled and find myself overwhelmed with the idea of tackling these issues, so I do very little.
I know I need to do something, but none of the things I’ve tried so far have worked. I’m afraid of dying one day, of being discovered buried under things and of leaving damage to my friends. TO HELP!!! — Addicted to tricks
Dear Stuff Addict: The first step to solving a problem is recognizing that there is one. Not only have you done this and expressed your desire to change, but you recognize that the way you live now puts you in danger. It’s time to act.
A simple internet search for waste removal services will show what is available for free in your local community. Anything broken beyond repair or just rubbish should go. Items that are fully functional but no longer serve you are just waiting to be useful to someone else. Consider dropping off donations at your local Goodwill store or scheduling a Purple Heart pickup from your home. Check their websites for information on what makes a donation acceptable first.
This will help with the state of your home, but you also need to address the state of your mind. Work with a therapist to uncover the root of your hoarding compulsions and strategies on how best to eliminate them as well.
Dear Annie: I read your response to “Speed Bump in My Speech”, which debated whether or not to include that she has a speech impediment in her online dating profile after the have done for years and attracted the wrong matches. I would like to complete your suggestion.
I am a 47 year old female and have been walking with a limp since birth. Many years ago, when I was looking to settle down, my parents suggested that I not mention lameness during the first few days of a phone call. To them, I’m a very well-educated, intelligent, and charming woman who guys will have a hard time saying no to, especially after good initial conversations. I followed him for almost six months and realized that when guys found limping off-putting, I was seriously depressed for the first time in my life.
That’s when my best friend mentioned that written words have immense power and suggested writing down the qualities of the man I’m looking for in my journal. With that clarity and a few months later, I was lucky enough to fall in love and marry the first person I decided to go on a date with. I told him about my limp within 15 minutes of our first conversation. He matched exactly the qualities I was looking for in a life partner. We have been married for over 21 years now and have two beautiful daughters.
I wish “Speed Bump” all the best in finding his love. – Love fully rewarded
Dear Required Love: Thank you for your letter; I love a happy ending.
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